FOR HER: "Your deepest desire is to be recognised as light" David Deida

"Your deepest desire is to be recognised as light, adored and worshipped as love's radiance, offering yourself as a gift of love to be claimed by true divine masculine integrity, ravished open to God by love's deepest claim to your heart" David Deida, Dear Lover.

Deida writes so beautifully about the feminine, he is a constant inspiration to me. Each time I read a chapter of his books, I feel re-inspired. For me, what he writes about here is part of the goddess nature of women. When the feminine is in surrender, she can truly go into her natural state of flow and in doing so, she connects deeply with the Now and to her divine essence. But for her to do that requires her to be held safely enough by the sacred masculine.

(I’m using “she/woman” and “he/man” to denote masculine and feminine here, though just to be clear, it’s by no means limited to gender. Each of us holds both masculine & feminine qualities and a man can embody the feminine just as powerfully as a woman – its just that typically men are more masculine and women more feminine so I’ll stick with that hetero-normative assumption in these blogs to simplicity!)

When a woman feels she can trust a man, she can begin to open herself. But this requires something very trustable from the man. He needs to be PRESENT. This is one of the most important qualities of the masculine. In tantra, it is the essence of Shiva – pure consciousness, awareness. The feminine is in the Now more fully than the masculine but the masculine is more in awareness, whereas the feminine is more about action/energy. In surrender, she flows as the ocean, crashing against the rocks of the masculine shore which contains her vastness. The masculine is stillness, being present to witness the majesty of the feminine in her power and full flow. Surrendering into her flow, the woman offers herself as a gift of love, a sacrifice – which in its true meaning, means a sacred offering – to the divine.

When a man can be present with a woman, she can relax into her flow and open. The more present the man, the more the woman can open. Each chakra opens like the most perfect flower, unfurling into blossom. Eventually, if the man can hold a strong enough presence, the woman can open her 6th & 7th chakras and in doing so she actually becomes the goddess, embodying her in all her beautiful and sometimes terrible glory and power.

If the masculine is strong enough, when this happens the man has no choice but to fully surrender to the goddess; he can only worship and adore her. In holding the space for the woman the gift for the man is that he is rewarded with meeting the goddess within his woman. In surrendering to the masculine the gift to the woman is that she is adored by her man and becomes the divine light of the goddess.

More on this soon.....


© Mike Lousada 2010
Sacred Sexual Healer
www.heartdaka.com